COUPLES COUNSELLING

• Has communication broken down?
• Could you benefit from an impartial listener?
• Would you like a chance to talk and listen in a structured setting?

Couples counselling provides a safe and supportive environment away from daily life to talk, listen, express feelings and reflect and better understand how you feel and how you interact in your relationship.

Relationship and Marriage Counselling provides the opportunity to untangle misunderstandings and see your relationship from a different perspective.

Appointments are available in Charlbury, West Oxfordshire.

Are you feeling .....

• you cannot make yourself heard or understood by your partner?
• you cover the same ground again and again without improvement?
• you are afraid to discuss certain topics with your partner?
• you feel alone or confused?
• you can't live together or/and you can't live apart?

When should you consider couples counselling?

Some couples hesitate coming for counselling when problems start to appear for fear that 'going to counselling' confirms something is wrong. It takes courage to admit to problems. Couples rarely come to work on their relationship 'too early''; they often come as a 'last chance' when relations are at crisis point. The sooner you come, the better the chances of avoiding irreparable resentment and bitterness.

What will happen?

• You as Individuals: I will first want to know a little bit about each of you, your background and what makes you 'tick';
• Why You are Here: What your problems are and what you hope to achieve from couples counselling;
• You as a Couple: Understanding how you as individuals relate to each other; what assumptions are being made; where confusion and misunderstanding has set in; and what your strengths are.
• A New Way: Trying things differently with a better appreciation of the impact certain actions make. I will also hope to help you understand better the diffences between what your partner said and what you hear.

Counselling provides you with the chance to say the things you have been holding back. You can find out how you are being heard by your partner. What you mean and what your partner thinks you mean can be vastly different!

And you will have a chance to find a way forward.

What are the Outcomes?

Only you, as individuals, know what is best and right for you. Often, the solution is right under your noses. It is not my job to make your decisions. I am here to understand your motives and help you find the healthiest way forward. The three outcomes are:

• Compromise - there are enough good things about your relationship to accept the problems and try to find ways of easing them;
• Part Company - if the future does not feel bearable or is destructive, the decision to end the relationship may be the only healthy outcome;
• Refresh Your Relationship - start re-building your relationship by working together to try things in a new way with a greater sensitivity and understanding of each other's needs.

Availability
I offer face-to-face sessions in Charlbury, Chipping Norton, West Oxfordshire weekdays and evenings.

My fees schedule are on the Fees page. If you require low-cost counselling, please contact one of the charity counselling providers or a therapeutic training institute who may be able to offer counselling with one of their students.

Terms and Conditions are available here